You know the person I am talking about. He or she is the person who looks great, always. He or she is the parent who always seems to have endless patience with his or her children. Or the fit person who looks so healthy, strong and…yes, even tan. The businessman that always seems calm.
The fact is we are all a work in progress. And despite what we look like on the outside, we are all vulnerable. We may be trying our best to keep our health, our fitness, and our lives in order, but we are still vulnerable. That is what makes us human right?
So, don’t judge a book by it’s cover. You will never truly know what goes on inside their head, their heart, or their soul. And if you see someone working hard to get it all done, don’t stand back and be in awe and say, “I can’t believe they can do all that?” Instead ask, “What can I do to help?” or “Can I grab that for you?” Because they really can’t do it all, nobody can. We all need a team.
Not everyone knows how to ask for help, because they want to be strong and healthy and independent. And beneath it all, maybe they are asking for help in the only way they know how.
Vulnerability allows us to feel joy, to feel sadness, to feel emotion, to be alive. And if someone actually asks for your help, decide what you are capable of giving. They aren’t asking for you to destroy yourself, but if you can’t give them what they need, maybe there is another person that can, or help them find professional help if that is what is needed.
And if you see someone struggling to get groceries in their car, or their hands are too full to open the door, simply offer help without questions. Because you just never know what their day has been like or what demons they fight. Because you just might make their life a little bit easier, a little bit more joyful, a little bit.
So often giving the gift of a helping hand is so much better than receiving any material gift.
Remove. Replace. Restore.
Remove judgment good or bad.
Replace with manners. Synergy, because working together is always more powerful. Thoughtfulness.
Restore community, family, and friendship.
Eat well. Move well. Sleep well. Thrive on.
Dr Carolyn Dolan DPT, Cert MDT, MSHN
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