As you all know, I have been doing a lot of reading and research related to nutrition and health. Although I find the science enlightening, I also find the science of human behavior, psychology and neuroscience even more fascinating. Although it seems like I am hopping all over the place and one might question my "expertise" in anything outside of my traditional degree of physical therapy and now to include holistic nutrition, I'd argue that no one is an expert in anything. In fact, those you find you might respect their advice the most have a curiosity in ALL areas related to LIFE.
Really, the key point I want to make is that I am an "expert" on me which has made me a much better parent (improving as I learn and experience life). As I understand myself better, the more well equipped I am to help my kids understand how to be good at being who they are. I am not an "expert" on you either, only you can be that. I am not an "expert" parent either, but I try to do my best, E.V.E.R.Y day. Mostly, I am open to new information that may help me on this journey. I write to share with you in hopes it may help you too.
This list of books are some of the most pivotal for me personally in understanding myself better so I can translate that to better parenting. These are not the typical "parenting" books. They focus on principles related to stress, nutrition, psychology and even life skills.
I didn't read them all in one week. Some I have listened to on CD or audible. So please don't pressure yourself to get it all in quickly as each book has a very specific purpose. Spending time focusing on transitioning the principles in these books to life will have a powerful impact on your parenting and family life.
These are in no particular order as each single one is valuable. I would encourage partners in parenting to read them together as having discussions amongst parents prior to implementing into the family is crucial to success. Figuratively and literally speaking because productive parenting requires you to be on the same page as your partner.
I would also add, that each of these books may be worthwhile reading/listening to if you are in a position of leadership of children including teachers and coaches. Much of our understanding of development was once thought to be about sport specificity or activity specificity, but in the end cross training was shown to be highly productive in improving athletic performance despite not being sport specific. Much like meditation improving test scores. This is why I call this list the BEST books for parents that aren't parenting books. Each one has had a dramatic impact on our(yes my husband has read most of these too) parenting skills despite not specifically being a parenting book.
Here is my list of the BEST books for parents that aren't parenting books....and yes, there are 11 of them.
1. Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me) - Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson
2. The Power Of Habit - Charles Duhigg
3. Better Than Before - Gretchen Rubin
4. It's Not About the Broccoli - Dina Rose, PhD
5. The 5 Love Languages of Children - Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell
6. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families - Stephen R Covey
7. Drive; The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us- Daniel H Pink
8. The Upside of Stress; Why Stress is Good For You and How to Get Good At It - Kelly McGonigal, PhD
9. Presence: Bringing your Boldest Self to your Biggest Challenges - Amy Cuddy
10. Deep Nutrition: Why Your Genes Need Traditional Food - Catherine Shanahan, MD and Luke Shanahan
11. Wired To Eat - Robb Wolf
I hope you take the time to read or listen to these books. Anyone involved with leading or teaching children has a lot to gain from any or all of these books. I know each one was an invaluable resource for me as a parent. I am sure there are more to add to this list as I continue growing as a parent as there is so much to learn.
I have much gratitude to my children, for without them I would never have been pushed to pay attention to my personal health nor learning how to be the best I can be for them.
Remove. Replace. Restore.
Remove passive parenting
Replace with simple and effective strategies to optimize your children's potential. Make every parenting effort count and produce the results in raising awesome humans.
Restore a happy family.
Eat Well. Move Well. Sleep Well. Soar On.
Dr Carolyn Dolan DPT, Cert MDT, MSHN
Where physical therapy, nutrition and lifestyle meet, because how you live your life determines whether or not you soar. Inspiring action with information so you can reduce pain, optimize healing and improve function naturally during recovery from injury, surgery or painful condition. This is a website for the open-minded; obstinate need not apply.